Imagine planning the perfect date. You thought of every detail and your heart is racing at the thought of the look you’re waiting to see on your partner’s face. Dinner is set, candles are lit, the present that you painstakingly searched for is carefully wrapped and set on the table at the opposite place setting. Your partner walks through the door and you’re shaking with anticipation. The dinner goes beautifully. The gift is well received. In a moment of true happiness, you take your partner’s hands in yours and you’re aim is to say “I love you” but what comes out is “more coffee?” You are discouraged, devastated inside but you won’t let it show. You can’t understand it. Why couldn’t you say it? You wanted to but the words just wouldn’t come out. The lump in your throat occurs again and again every time you try to tell your partner how you feel. You’re helpless, at the mercy of a fear that you may not even know is plaguing you. Can hypnosis help?
Holding Back
Fear holds us back from many things: moving forward at a job, raising children, moving to a new city, and telling someone that you love them. Fear can cause many reactions in the body that are debilitating. You don’t consciously have control over your actions, like that lump in your throat or not being able to say what you really want to say. It can make you feel like you’re unworthy, inadequate, and like you’re failing at something that you want more than anything else. It’s not your fault that the wrong words came out, but you’re still the only person that can enact true and lasting change. There could be things in your past or even stress in your present that triggers this fear response and holds you back from doing and saying the things that you really want to do.
You can be free of your fears! Your hypnotherapist can help you open a direct line to your subconscious and to allow you to change what causes your fear response. Perhaps there was an event in your past that has stuck with you and you don’t realize the impact that this event had. Maybe some of the things in your present routine weigh down on you and cause you to remember your past and thus trigger your fears. Hypnotherapy can help you figure out what that event is, or help you to separate the stress in your present from the fears of your past. When these fears come up in your everyday life, it can range from embarrassing and terrifying. Even worse, the fear is heightened by the prospect of losing someone you love because you’re being held back by fear. You can learn to be responsive to love instead of being afraid and tell your partner those words that you wanted to say at the end of your perfectly planned out date. You don’t have to fear that you’re not worth it, that you can’t be loved, or that you’ll be rejected. None of those things are true. You simply have to believe it yourself.
